I finally realized the reasons why I stayed away from early dating till I turned 18 when I decided to keep my first boyfriend. There are certain reasons which could range from distractions at school and unwanted pregnancy, but I wouldn’t want to discuss those, I had to pick my top 5 reasons and its really crazy.
1. Our School End The Year Party
Being in umuafrica.com/make-long-distance-relationship-work-derek-martinez/">relationship can really tie you down that you wouldn’t understand the fun of being in a party if you are in a serious relationship. I actually missed those days we would dance with anybody who we like that showed up in the party without answering to nobody. I decided not to be in any pre-mature relationship so that I can fully enjoy the dividends of my youthful age. One of the dividend is partying and dancing with anybody.
2. Distance is really messy
If you are in a relationship with someone from your hometown, distance can be a really big block in a happy relationship, especially when you want to take advantage of all the new experiences college has to offer. I met so many new people on campus, and the thought of walking to a date’s dorm seemed better than driving to my boyfriend’s house 40 minutes away. You will probably have to miss out on a lot of weekend events to spend time with your boyfriend instead. That is of course if he lives in a distance in which you can actually visit.
3. You have to worry about someone else.
College is a time where you are truly learning all about the ins and outs of what makes you who you are. It is true that one of the most important things you can do is set goals you want to achieve during your college years. Sometimes, not always, but sometimes, being in a relationship can make it easy to put those aspirations on the back burner because you are also focusing on the happiness of someone else. I abstained from early relationships because I felt that I had my own future to worry about, let alone someone else to worry about (at least it was too early).
4. You miss out on the ‘dating’ experience.
It can be one the most anxiety-causing life experiences, but dating can teach you what you would want in someone you will eventually be in a monogamous relationship with. Flirting with different kinds of guys has taught me a lot about myself , what I like and what I don’t like about people and myself. If you are single, apps like Facebook, Badoo etc. make it so easy to meet people around you. My friends (and myself) are guilty of binge-swiping boys left and right. You can really meet nice guys to hang out with, or just have fun with your girlfriends all the time. That is something I would really miss if I had a boyfriend.
5. You miss the butterfly feeling.
You might find someone who gives you that tight-knot feeling in your stomach when you see them or hear their voice. But, in a time when you’re constantly learning and growing, the things that excited you at the beginning, may no longer give you the same feeling as time goes on. You no longer gather in your dorm with your girlfriends picking out the cutest outfit for the first, second, even third dates. You will meet people who you connect with on levels you no longer connect with your significant other on. When this happens, it is easy to start to resent your boyfriend or girlfriend because before you know it, you may start to realize you are no longer happy with them.
It basically lies in your happiness, if you really want to stay with someone, then you should. Everyone is so different and they want different things. Some people have been dreaming of being married by the time they graduate college, and some people gag at the thought of it. Just stay true to who you are, and remember it is OK that your wants and needs change along the way.
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